As I am writing this I keep pondering over what topics to write about. In many ways when I look back at what my life looked like the last time I wrote something I feel that my life is pretty much the same, and yet, things has happend. Big things, small things, great things, not so great things, even life altering things has happend.

Six months ago I gave birth to my son, our first child. He is simply the best, greatest and life altering thing that has happend to us!

By becoming pregnant and a mother I got told that this and that would happend and I just needed to wait! I had none of it. My pregnancy was a dream, no nausa, no hormones, no swelling, nothing. And during my entire pregnancy I got told that it all would come, I just needed to wait. after 4 months I decided that instead of me going around waiting for all this to come, I would rather be grateful for the time I didn’t get any. So I went my whole pregnancy without any issues. Had it not been for my growing belly and the baby kicking I wouldn’t know that I was pregnant.

And then I was told that I would not get much sleep, that I would constantly carry him, not have any time for myself and that I no longer matter and I needed to put all my time, energy, “free-time”, and put myself last.

I can tell you right now that I have boldly chosen not to follow that trend! I am worth so much more to myself, my baby and my partner!

I have an amazing partner that not only loves me, he loves his child and spends as much time with his child as he can. This makes it even easier to find time for myself. After six months as a mother I use even ,more time on myself than I used to do. I do my skincare-routine twice a day, I shower as often as I want to, I put on makup almost everyday, I get my hair and nails done a regular basis. I soak in our bathtub once to twice a week without any rush. I read books everyday. I check on social media. I take execllent care of myself.

And by taking so great care of myself I am showing up on a much more balanced way. There are very few days where I become exhausted, stressed, mad or angry. Then again, my child is an very happy boy, he smiles pretty much all day long, are usually up only once a night (if there is more than once then it’s usually something bothering him), he is used to other people and likes other people, he loves his stroller, loves going for a car-ride and he can lay in his babygym for hours playing by himself. If he is like this because we are calm or we are calm because he is likes this I can’t answer you. But I do belive that if we as parents are calm, happy and shows lots of love, then there is a higher chance that the childer will grow up to be calm, seek happiness for themselves and have confidence.

Love

Emilie Cathrin