One of my goals for this year is getting to know my femininity better and what that means for me.

If we see what the actual definition on feminine is the we might put a quastionmark on what many of todays women is trying to tell us what femininity is.

I am part of one group spesific for femininity and feminine energy. In this group we get told that to be feminine is to not work on yourself because femininity is something that comes naturally when you let go and relax. It also teaches us that we need to stop with working hard and instead start to attract what we want because working hard is a masculine trait. Also that you need to open up to being taken care of.

This does not really aligne with what I belive femininity means for me and my life.

I am also reading a book called “The Audacity to be Queen” by Gina Devee, and even if it’s somewhat about trusting religion by praying to your god which does not really fit with me since I don’t follow any religion. But I do like this book, it’s more about the fact that for a person to their extraordinary self then they must belive that they are extraordinary because when your belive that you are something then you live like that also. And for me I felt a shift inside of me after I started to treat my home like my palace, my life like a king(queen)dom and my self as a queen. I fully belive that we all need both masculine and feminine energy inside us to be balanced.

For me femininity is beautiful dresses, makeup, hair and nails done, high heels. Softness in walking, talking, how I react to things, how I show up and take care of myself.
I do feel I get to connect more with my inner self when I tap in to my femininity. I have loved high heels from the moment I started to wear them, and I do belive that in many cases it was because I was finally as high as my female friends. But over the years it become more the fact that I could spice up a boring outfit with just some shoes. And now I feel so elegant and classy when I put on one of my dresses, some light makeup with red lipstick, my hair and nails done and some heels.

Masculinity for me means hard work, even if it’s not “hard” work and I do belive it has much to do with what kind of work it is. One of my jobs is at a gym and in some ways people would think it’s a “feminine” job since we the cleaning, yet on the other hand we do have to put weights and other gym equipment that would classify as “masculine”. So in many ways I do find this part of my work masculine, I also do find strength training to be of the masculine energy part. And I love strength training! I am a bit out of pratice due to only being sporadic at the gym since giving birth. I am back at training several days a week, and for now I do focus more on stretching and yoga due to some tightness in my whole body. I know that if I go strait for the weights I may end up injuring myself and we don’t want that!

What do you think about femininity and masculinity? How does it show up in your life?

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Emilie Cathrin