Hello everyone and welcome back.
Today we are going to talk about friendships and how it changes throughout the years.

Lifelong friendships

They say that friendships that last longer then 7 years are statistically more likely to end up being lifelong bonds.
I have also heard that those who are best friends usually didn’t like each other at the beginning. And this is so true for me and my best friend. I have known her since I was 10 years old and she was 11 years old. We couldn’t stand each other in the beginning. But thanks to her mother, she is now my best friend and godmother to my son.

I remember the day it changed from not liking each other to becoming best friends.
It was her birthday and her mother made her invite me because she was not allowed to exclude one person. And for some reason I had to spend the night at her house, neither of us wanted that. After that night we became best friends. I was almost as often at her house as I was at my own house. I remember spending most Wednesdays at her place. I slept over at her house because Supernatural was on the tv in the evening, and I was not allowed to stay up that long at home.

After me and my family moved to another place we started to talk on the phone everyday. We even used to be on videocall on MSN (yes, I am that old), while talking on the phone.
I used to shout “I am home” every time I went to her house. Her family became my family. And we call each other sisters instead of best friends.

There have been times where we needed to take a break from each other to protect ourselves and our friendship.
I used to be in a bad relationship. I was manipulated and abused both physical and mentally. Every time we talked it would end up in a big fight with the person I was with then. It ended up with her taking a step back from our friendship to protect me. Yet I knew she would be there the moment I called her and told her about the breakup.

We have both struggled mentally. At some point we ended up dragging each other down, instead of helping each other so we needed to take a step back from each other.

However, in the end. We are still best friends. I was one of her maids of honor in her wedding, and she is godmother to my son. We may not talk to everyday, and it can go months without us seeing each other. But when we talk and meet up it’s so familiar, good and amazing. Even after over 20 years as best friends. She is my family!

Changes

By reading this far you have seen how our friendship has changed throughout the years.

We all change and evolve over time, and so does our friendships.
I find it weird if you want to stay the same as have been. And that you want your friendships to stay the same.

I am also a believer of people coming in to your life for a reason. And that some are meant to be lifelong connections, while others are meant to teach you something about yourself. Some people are meant to just come in to your life for a little while.

A real friendships do change over time. It will be times where you or your friend need to take a step back to protect you or themselves. And as you get older you find other things that needs to be a priority. It could be work, family, yourself and your health, a significant other or children.
When life happens some of your friends will not like it, and even end your friendships because they are at e different stage of life that does not align with your own. Other friends will cheer you on while they are busy with their own.

Ending

In the end.
Friendships changes over time. Some people are only meant to be your friend for a short time. While others are meant to be lifelong friends.
At some point in time you or your friend need a break to protect themselves, you and your friendship.

Questions

What is your thoughts about friendships?

Love
Emilie Cathrin